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Priority #1

Are you feeling brave? When was the last time that you and your spouse checked that your priorities were compatible?
Are you sure you are feeling brave? Then try the following eye opening exercise. Each of you list your top five priorities in life and then list what you think your spouse would say your top five are. Some common priorities are:
work/career house/home possessions friends
children sports hobbies pets
your partner future goals relatives TV
faith/Gd/religion education co-workers car
If they are the same, that’s great, you are heading for everlasting happiness. If they are not take some time to think about how you can bring them together to bring the two of you closer together.
Jewish thought says that there can only be one priority in your married life, your husband or your wife. They have to be at the top of your list even above your kids, because the best thing that you can do for your kids, is to give them a happy, loving, stable home.
We are all exhausted and this is the most common excuse for not making each other feel that they are our number one. Rabbi Pliskin says to always ask yourself the question, “What can I do to make her/him feel like s/he is the center of my world?”
Maybe you should drop everything when they walk in the door and greet them with excitement, a smile and the kids. Be interested in their day (even if it was boring!). Snap out of it and be attentive. Let them know you are present and it makes a difference to your life that they are with you. Show them that you desire intimacy.
Your husband or your wife needs to know that they are your number one.

Are you feeling brave? When was the last time that you and your spouse checked that your priorities were compatible?

Are you sure you are feeling brave? Then try the following eye opening exercise. Each of you list your top five priorities in life and then list what you think your spouse would say your top five are. Some common priorities are:

work/careerhouse/home - possessions friends - childrensportshobbiespets - your partnerfuture goalsrelativesTV - faith/Gd/religioneducationco-workerscar

If they are the same, that’s great, you are heading for everlasting happiness. If they are not take some time to think about how you can bring them together to bring the two of you closer together.

Jewish thought says that there can only be one priority in your married life, your husband or your wife. They have to be at the top of your list even above your kids, because the best thing that you can do for your kids, is to give them a happy, loving, stable home.

We are all exhausted and this is the most common excuse for not making each other feel that they are our number one. Rabbi Pliskin says to always ask yourself the question, “What can I do to make her/him feel like s/he is the center of my world?”

Maybe you should drop everything when they walk in the door and greet them with excitement, a smile and the kids. Be interested in their day (even if it was boring!). Snap out of it and be attentive. Let them know you are present and it makes a difference to your life that they are with you. Show them that you desire intimacy.

Your husband or your wife needs to know that they are your number one.

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